Love Letters
Dec. 8th, 2004 12:19 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
I just finished The Notebook on the way to school this morning. The review I will leave for a BXing entry, but it got me thinking about the one major piece of advice my mother ever gave me: always save your love letters. This is one of the things that she regrets most at this point in her life, that she didn't.
This book got me to re-thinking about this issue. Though not many in number, I think that all of the love letters I have ever received in my life have been via e-mail. (What that says about the people that I date, I will leave to you to think about.) Now I am feeling like I should print them to keep a hard copy, just in case though. Sitting here I find myself rereading and remembering.
My mother's advice seems particularly important as I sit here. There are mostly letters from people whom I am no longer seeing. These are the letters most in danger. If I wasn't to think about it that much I would think "why not just erase/throw them away?" But with that advice in mind as I reread them I feel softer, remembering feelings and small kindnesses. Especially in one relationship in particular for which I still hold a lot of anger and disappointment, I am remembering the small redeeming things. I think they actually might help to heal a place that I was not aware that needed healing.
This book got me to re-thinking about this issue. Though not many in number, I think that all of the love letters I have ever received in my life have been via e-mail. (What that says about the people that I date, I will leave to you to think about.) Now I am feeling like I should print them to keep a hard copy, just in case though. Sitting here I find myself rereading and remembering.
My mother's advice seems particularly important as I sit here. There are mostly letters from people whom I am no longer seeing. These are the letters most in danger. If I wasn't to think about it that much I would think "why not just erase/throw them away?" But with that advice in mind as I reread them I feel softer, remembering feelings and small kindnesses. Especially in one relationship in particular for which I still hold a lot of anger and disappointment, I am remembering the small redeeming things. I think they actually might help to heal a place that I was not aware that needed healing.